Grown up conversation.

A friend had a meeting a few hours away and didn't want to drive by herself. So after talking the hubbykins into this great idea... We headed out. 

I dropped her off at her meeting and as I pulled away I thought.... Oh crap... What am I gonna do? Haha. I hate HATE being alone. So I ended up at Starbucks. 

I have to tell you.... My favorite part of all of this was just completing a thought. 

That sounds funny right?

But as a mommy... Sometimes it is impossible just to complete a sentence without interruption. Now these tiny people need attention and I am not down playing that. But sometimes it's nice to just soak in complete thoughts that don't include potty schedules and sippy cups. 

You may chuckle, think I'm crazy or even agree... But sometimes it's nice to talk to grown ups about anything ... I had a funny little conversation with the Starbucks guy about flour less cookies. It wasn't that interesting and he was probably just trying to sell me a cookie BUT who cares!! It was just nice. As I sit here a bride is chatting with her wedding planner ( big cheesy grin) I am just soaking in the details of her amazing wedding and beside me to lawyers are going over the list of applicants they met today and rating them. This is just plain fun for me!

Now I do understand that not everyone is this way! Haha. I love LOVE meeting new people and making new friends.  Maybe I am wrong but I think every mom at some point just needs to have adult conversation..... Maybe I am crazy? Ok we know I'm crazy.... But what do you think? 

My view as I write.

When as a mom you are SURE you might lose your mind.

I wrote this a month or so ago.....
My boys had gotten the stomach bug for the 3rd time this winter.
I didn't publish it because I wanted to make sure that I wasn't just ranting.
But as I read it now I am laughing out loud and even tearing up a little.
This post came from a mom at the end of her rope.
I see her from time to time ( wink)

So read and laugh.... try not to judge. But know you aren't alone out there!





I don't know whether I should laugh or cry!

I chuckle even as I write that.

My boys have been sick for the last few days.
For the last 4 days neither one of them or myself have left our apartment.
Today is the first day that they both have felt great!
Which is good news.... except that they are getting on each others nerves.

So between cleaning... I am breaking up fights and forcing them to play AWAY from each other.
This is where the should I cry or laugh thing comes into play.
I haven't showered!
I don't know if I have brushed my teeth! ( eww)
I have all sorts of things stuck to my shirt.
Including a pig sticker that was VERY VERY important to my 2 year old. Who was so upset that said sticker was stuck on me that he went into a full on temper tantrum!
I can't remember the last time I took a shower without little people barging in.
For that matter I can't remember the last time I used the bathroom when I could close the door without someone doing something they shouldn't.

This is not a complain fest! I get it! I signed up for this.
AND as hard as it is I wouldn't change it.
But I am kinda sick of the perfect mom mentality that is pressed on us.
WE ARE NOT PERFECT!
We will lose our temper sometimes.
Sometimes we will feed our kids PB&J not because its their favorite but because we don't have energy for anything else.
We could quite possibly go a few days in a row with a clean house and clean kids but not take a shower!
I am impressed by those people who have it together.
I just think its time MOMS UNITE and stop setting such crazy expectations for ourselves.
I would be thrilled if I got to the end of my day and didn't lose my temper... But if that meant that I needed to sacrifice dishes, laundry or dusting.... would I be willing?

What would it take?

What would you do?

How far would you go?

If doing the right thing meant letting go of something.... would you?

You know ( jeesh I hope you know) that I have a relationship with a big God.
But even if you don't.... when did we as a human race stop caring about other people?

For real. It's a legit question.

 When did we start putting our needs above the needs of others?

When did we start saying things like " I am not happy so I am leaving"
forgetting entirely the lives that would be affected?

When did we stop caring about people because I don't have time ( but I just went home to watch TV)?

This is not me being judgmental. I am SO guilty of both of these.

My question is....

What would it take?

Would I give up my favorite TV show to help someone?

Would I sacrifice my "happiness" for the benefit of others?

How far would I go to dramatically change how I interact with people?

Would I be willing to give up everything I own to benefit others?

What about my plans?   What about my family? 

How far would I go to change the lives of people who are hurting?

If I decided to go ALL IN and act different... How long before I give up?

What's holding me back from really actually helping people?

Is it my social life? Is it that I am scared?

Of what?   

Am I really scared of people?  Nope.

Am I scared of being mocked? Maybe.

I am not here with an answer but I do think we are missing out on SO much by hiding in our "safe" places.
To be perfectly honest.... I am sick of feeling safe! Even as I write that out I get a sick feeling in my stomach.
But I mean it.

I am sick and tired of doing nothing because I am afraid of the unknown.

How far are we willing to go for the benefit of others?

Think Christians are hypocrites?? Yeah... so do I !

I am going to try to write this as graciously as I possibly can. I went to a conference recently and something we heard over and over was " Approach trumps content EVERY time".

I think Christians have a tendency to be hypocrites.
I hate that ALL Christians get pegged with the bad deeds of some. I want to try my hardest not to hurt or anger anyone on purpose... that would make me just as wrong.

OK so here it is....

I think that it is very dangerous when Christians put sin in levels.
Making one worse than another.

A Cheater is no worse than a gossip or a meddler.

The Bible very clearly says let he who is without sin cast the first stone.

I truly and HUGELY believe in the body of Christ and the accountability that comes with it.
I do think there is room for a gracious and loving approach to someone struggling with sin.
There is NOT room for gossiping, back biting and slander.

I am not innocent. I have made mistakes and talked about people behind their backs too. So this isn't me judging you.
This is me asking you to look at the situation.
Consider the people involved.
Do you honestly think they want their business spread all over?
If this was you.... would you want people talking about you?

Isn't the golden rule:
"Do unto others what you would have them do unto you"

These are not complicated thoughts.

Its actually really simple...
You want people to stop thinking of Christians as hypocrites?
Stop talking behind each others' backs.
Stop kicking people when they are already down.
Stop talking about their sin.... because you are sinning when you do.